Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche illuminates the difference between selfish giving and true giving. He continues to speak on letting go of aggression. Letting go of aggression involves a generousness that needs to be unparalelled when compared to the aggression we naturally feel when we feel we have been wronged. Of course, it is natural to feel the need for justice and fair treatment, however, it is also natural for us to feel a need to act out in regards to injustice. The unnatura part of aggression is when we feel a desire to treat another human being aggressively. In my opinion, it is unnatural for human beings to treat other human beings aggressively because of a wrong we feel has been done against us.
Instead of taking our aggression out on others, it is better to naturally let that aggression flow through the mind, body and Spirit and allow it time to rest. A generous heart will see the difference between natural and unnatural aggression! When we absolutely surrender, we will find absolute freedom, peace and stillness in our selves.
When you give, you also receive, as the saying goes. We must find the generousness in our hearts to give Life and Love even in times of darkness. Letting go of aggression means letting go of the ego, or the part of our Self that needs validation for our aggression. A peaceful mind is a generous mind. As the heart also has a mind, let us try to connect heart to mind so that our thinking becomes clear, so that we act out of our own natural generosity and not our own unnatural aggression.
Surrendering Your Aggression -Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche --Shambhala