Pema Chodron -- Keeping The Heart and Mind Open via YouTube.
Leave a Gap - aka "The Pause Practice": Take some time out of your day to pause and notice your surroundings. Your sensory input mechanics. Look at the sky, look at the birds flying above you, look at the branches of the tree you're walking by. The key here is to be mindful of your surroundings so that you can notice your body and your Self has a place in this masterpiece that is Nature AND the day as it moves throughout time and space. Look at people's faces, watch people. Drink your coffee and tea with special attention. Another key is this practice doesn't take too much time out of your day. The important part is to do something you're already doing MINDFULLY so that you may enjoy yourself in this task with much greater enthusiasm.
Remember to allow your Self the time (even if it is only a brief moment) to be immersed in the splendor of the Natural world.
"Let life stop your mind." - Pema Chodron
The power of non-escalation. Learning to stay with the painfulness of not retaliating when this world throws it's bullshit at you. Pema recognizes the powerful process of stopping the mind, findnig a moment of peace and not trying to fill that void or that gap with some retaliative emotion. She recommends "finding the gap" between thought, emotion and getting caught up in the constant need to act on our perverse emotions. She says it limits the potential of our "short human life" and that we
"miss so much," including beauty AND sorrow!
Our sorrow connects us with all of humanity and helps us to feel alive. Really alive, in her words.
This process takes courage. Allow yourself to feel the plethora of emotions that often rage and wane through your Self. Be open.
Pema also focuses on being a woman and expressing the Buddha's teaching as a woman. Her experience is validated by the overall world's view and treatment of women as a whole. In the work place, at home and on the streets (in public).
Pema remembers what her first teaching and seminar was like when she encountered a woman, Buddhist nun. "Maybe i could speak it and talk it," as well.
She goes on to comment that in the west it is much different than in Tibet, where she says women are not held back in their teaching/learning at all.
Pema leads the group in a transformative meditation called Tonglen or "compassionate abiding."
"In order to stand in someone else's shoes, you have to stand in your own shoes first." - Pema Chodron
A Conversation with Pema Chodron and K D Lang - 20 06 2015